Thursday, March 16, 2006

What's in a name?

November 12, 2005

Jasai - 30
Los Angeles, CA
2 children - 1 boy (10), 1 girl (4)

“When I have a son I'm gonna name him Joseph Darnell Curtis Zephryn Morris.”

This is what my ten-year-old son tells me this morning during a pause in his weekend chores.

I lose my breath.

Does this mean that he is going to abandon his children like the namesakes he calls upon to guide his would-be child’s way in the world. Poor baby; great-grandfather, grandfather, father, gone. Will the male inherits of my family be doomed to the curse of wandering and irrepressible selfishness? Should I know that like hair texture and eye color, propensity-to-leave is what comes with the package labeled “who we are” and it was simply that first choice of procreating with ‘him’ that has lead me to this. I have to believe something else. I have to believe it or I will be forever grieved.

How does this happen? What is it that makes this precarious, invisible connection so dense and weighty?

*names have been changed to protect the innocent and not-so-innocent

Wednesday, March 15, 2006


December 19, 2005

Frieda - 41
Avon, CT
3 children - Girls (16), (15) and (11)

If you teach the perils of procrastination to your children............

but do not yourself avoid procrastination, what does that make you? A hypocrite? Nice - a procrastinating hypocrite! Very nice Frieda.

It is 12:06 a.m. and I have been up all night doing last week’s work.

Monday, March 13, 2006

what gratitude will get you

March 9, 2006

Schunetta - 31
Pamona, CA
1 baby (en route)

4 step children - 3 girls (13), (10), (8) and 1 boy (4)

It seems like just yesterday when I talked to my Heavenly Father and expressed to him: MOTHERHOOD. It also appears that just yesterday I wrote about my wonderful step-children.*

Growing up in church you always hear "He may not come when you want him but he is always on time." Boy oh boy is that the case! At the same time I have been struggling with this whole weight thing so that when God does bless me with a child I won’t be so fat.

Well, all that was so until March 08, 2006 when hubby and I went walking casually through Target. We purchased a home pregnancy test and look-a-there! a little “coming to the world!” I immediately went to the Dr. this morning to be reassured of what I saw last night. So motherhood was claimed and now it is being received. Lord I just want to thank you for all that you have done for me. God is good all the time. All the time God is Good!

*see Schunetta's previous post

Little Brothers = Big Love

March 8, 2006

Trula - 34
Cleveland, OH
3 children - 2 boys (8), (11), 1 girl (16)

My sons think the sun rises and sets on their big sister. She is
5 1/2 years older than Scott, 8 1/2 years older than Todd. My kids have always enjoyed hanging out together but the past couple of years she has, naturally, wanted to spend more and more of her free time with her friends. My sons have expressed missing her. This past Saturday we spent the entire day together and it was grand. She was a little grouchy at first and complained of wanting to be with her friends, but she soon got over it and
spent time playing with her brothers. I asked them, what did you like best about today? and Scott and Todd said: Everything but especially seeing Iyende all day.