Goal No. 12,543 - lower. my. voice.
3 children - 2 boys (8), (11), 1 girl (17)
I figured this is probably true of children, because I have noticed my children getting a pained expression on their faces sometimes when I am telling them to do something. And sometimes they’ll ask me why I am shouting and I don’t even realize I have raised my voice. So lately I have been working on speaking to them in a lower tone of voice.
The effect has been marvelous.
When I tell them to do something, they take notice and do it right away. I realize now that they had gotten used to tuning out my ‘strident’ voice, which would cause me to tell them a second time, with my voice even higher and more buzzing. If I had to tell them a third time, oh man, I sounded very high-pitched.
T-bop told me tht other day that he liked my calm voice very much. That made me feel very happy.